As far as hanging out with Christian kids: I don’t look for that as a standard. We have a kid who lives nearby, goes to church twice a week, is in the worship band. He’s thrown rocks and baseballs at my kids’ heads, stolen their scooters and is mean to them when he thinks I’m not looking and nice to them when he knows I can see. He’s a Christian.

A Christian can be wonderful or not.  

The standard I teach my kids isn’t about looking for designer religious labels but about looking for qualities of love and kindness and making things right when they’re done wrong. If that shows up in Jewish, Christian, Buddhist, Athiest, Whatever-ist, I’m good with it.

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The more I think about it, the more I believe this well-meaning statement is not only a manipulative way to try to control our daughters’ behavior, but can also be dangerous to their spiritual health. When we tell her to be an example, we may as well just hand her a mask right there – Here. Hide behind this. Don’t let them see you struggle.

I know that’s not what we mean. I know. But it doesn’t matter so much what we mean, it matters what she hears.

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